Wages Gendered....

How much would you pay for a person who needs to take care of kids and housework and can finish a task on time? and in most cases, this person would be a female.

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How much would you pay for a person who does not need to take care of the house and get used to make decisions (in both family and work settings) and could spend more time to finish a task and get it done before its due? in most cases, this person would be a male.

It is very common to see men to be hired in a higher position and get paid more in today's society. Of course there are some expectations but the fact is, men get paid for more. 

But I think this situation is changing. When you see more women are going to college and professional schools then men do, I think women are going to get paid for more than men, or at least more and more women would work in a professional settings then men do. It is because when more and more ladies are studying at Law schools, it means less women are working on farms and these jobs will be taken by men.

Commonalities and Differences

What does a woman do in your culture? In my family, my mother was the queen, and does not know how to cook anything. Her job is to hang out with other women and maintain the family's network. I didnt know how to cook until I moved to the US when I was 17. My step-dad doesn't cook except for the holidays. Hongkong middle class women don't cook often and our maids from Thailand or Indonesia do all the cookings. 

These young ladies spend years to learn Chinese, cooking, and taking care of Chinese babies at schools that are supported by the maid agencies in Hongkong. They want to work in hongkong as a maid and make money and send it back home. Traditional women's roles are replaced by maids from other countries these days. In Hongkong, women do need to know how to cook or take care of babies. It is very common to see different women have different roles in a same culture.

"Tough Guise"

Today, we were watching a movie that discusses about the male gender roles here in the US, and how difficult it is for men to fit into the gender 'box'. Some of the men who are more feminine were treated badly by their peers.  It was a very sad movie, but it is the reality. And recently, a few gay teens committed suicide because they thought they didn't fit into the box and being gay was wrong. Here is a video that I want to share with everyone. It's uploaded by Joel Burns, Fort Worth City Councilman. He shared his personal experience about growing up as a gay man in Taxes, a place where all the sexy manly cowboys are, and how he didn't fit into the 'traditional' gender role. Joel was crying when he was speaking, and that made me cry too. Men are not tough, and men are actually very emotional. Men are also human beings, and they have feelings. However, the society seems to expect all men to hide their real feelings, and I think it is ridiculous.